March 03, 2014

How do you develop leadership? By building relationship

From Lead Change group  by Joshua Uebergang   |  February 27, 2014

Leadership is about capturing the minds and hearts of followers/associates?

How do you do it?

1.  Go down to the experiential level

2.  Search for the emotion

3.  Relate to this

Change take place when you make the people feel good about themselves.

Wanting to change is the biggest stumbling block to progress.  Leadership is the key to change/progress.


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“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.”
- Brian Tracy
Inspiring speeches evoke change for one reason: they make you believe you matter. You shift from doubt towards the belief a different future is possible no matter how bad you feel.
Man leadership with social skills
Feeling a belonging, an acceptance, a validation drives self-esteem, contribution, and motivation. It’s the feeling that what you do and who you are matters. By developing this social skill of leadership, you don’t develop people, but help people develop themselves.
I believe feeling important is as much about self-belief and validation of your experience than anything to do with ego, compliments, and games. It is an unstoppable human trait that has lead great accomplishments.
As a leader or hopeful leader, how can you improve this one social skill? In my helping shy men build their social skills for over 8 years, there is a three-step process. It is one of the most powerful social skills you can develop as a leader of people when someone has a problem.
The key is to emotionally relate to people. The understanding helps people feel centered then capable of progressing forward.
Firstly ask, “What is the problem?” You are not understanding the problem purely for your own sake as much as getting the person to think what is their problem.
The second key question to ask is, “How does that make you feel?” Men tend to ramble about the problem failing to mention any emotion. Anger, sadness, and despair – these are emotions. You can often see emotion in their body language as they describe the problem. If they meander from your question, bring them back: “I see. How does that make you feel?”
Once you see the problem and their emotion, the third step is to relate at an emotional level by sharing a story you experienced. If the person feels sad after a divorce, you don’t need to be divorced to emotionally relate then validate their experience. Look for an experience where you lost something valuable, ideally a relationship, then felt sad. It could be a non-marriage breakup, death of a loved one, an old friend leaving overseas forever, or a pet dying.
The point here is the emotion you felt needs to reflect their emotion and be close to its intensity. If the intensity isn’t there, you can preface your story with, “This isn’t as intense as what you’re going through…”
What you have done in these three steps is “relate.” You have built the relate-ionship. You have validated someone’s experience. You have provided a nurturing context for development, change, and growth. Therapist Virginia Satir said, “We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.” That is the essence of leadership.


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